Submitted by tony on March 27, 2008 - 9:13am.
For centuries, a husband and father's job
has remained essentially the same - it is his duty to leave the family, hunt,
and return with sustenance. Although we now bring home money rather than
venison, men are still what they always have been: hunters and gatherers.
This will never be more important than
during your wife's first few weeks after the birth. Since she is recovering and
possibly unable to work herself, the job of financial provider may rest solely
on your shoulders. You may find yourself working longer hours, and putting your
work away once you get home will become more and more difficult.
It is important, however, to separate your
work from your family. Constantly fretting about business prevents you from
living in the moment and cherishing each and every second with your beautiful
new baby. It can also strain your relationship with your wife, who may think
you're "at home, but not at home." If
you're having trouble leaving work at work, or if you're just trying to find a
balance, take some advice:
- Rearrange your schedule, not your family's - If you have to put in extra hours to finish a
particularly large project, don't steal those hours from your family. Instead
of staying late, go in early. Although you might have a hard time dragging
yourself out of bed in the morning, it's better to lose a few hours sleep than lose
a few hours of raising your daughter.
- Turn off your laptop
- With technology at it's peak, we literally never have to leave our
offices. Even at home, we're connected to every facet of our work - through out
laptops, our Blackberries, our cell phones, and our email accounts. If you
don't extract yourself from work, then, it will constantly be hanging over your
head. Turn off your electronics, no matter how hard it may be. If you're too
dedicated to work to do so, then you have a problem. Being a workaholic is a
very real issue, and you may need counseling.
- Practice a no-work policy -
Let it be known around your house that you will do absolutely no work while at
home. Don't forget to circulate this around the office, as well. Inform all
your coworkers that no issue is important enough to require you to work during
your family's time. If there is a problem, it will still be there when you
arrive in the morning. Unless you're a major corporate player pulling in tens
of millions of dollars every year, there is never a reason you should be
answering calls from work at 8 p.m.
- Take the long way home - No
one should be expected to jump seamlessly from one role to another. After a
long day of fretting over work issues, it may be hard to put those away enough
to enjoy your time at home. Give yourself time to let go of your workday by
taking the long way home. Drive through a park, get a soda somewhere or just
park and let your thoughts drift. Let go of work before you get home, so you'll
be ready to devote your night to your family.
Anything to which you devote 40 hours a week
is going to bleed in to the rest of your life. You have to remember, though,
that while providing for your family is of supreme importance, your job is not.
In the long run, would you rather have spent your life surrounded by your loved
ones or surrounded by work?
