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How old is too old for your kids to see you naked?
Submitted by tony on March 31, 2008 - 11:25am.
okay, sort of an embarrassing question... my tot still hangs out in the bathroom with me while I shower and get ready for work everyday. When should I kicking him out? Is it different for girls vs. boys?
Tages:
One Nude Dude!!
My 3.5yr old, Maxx is constantly naked. He comes home from a long day at day-care and just sheds his clothes and lounges "au natural"!!
If he sees me naked when I get out of the shower he doesn't make a big deal about it, at all. My wife does not let him see her naked at all (or me for that matter, lol!!) I think it is very normal for kids at that age to want to explore their own bodies but the key word there is "their" bodies.
When they ask...What's That Daddy?!??!!!?
I think as soon as they started talking and asked "What's That Daddy?!??" is when I started using disrcetion around my girls. I would say 2-3 years old is when I got that question. Now, I just close the door when I am dressing and/or in the bathroom. If they happen to see me, I don't make a big deal about it...I just say "OK, whatever."
being bare
My $.02: My parents let my sister and me see them naked when we were tots, and I think it allowed my curiosity to be answered about both men and women's bodies. My wife and I are hoping if we welcome nakedness as a fine thing-- while closing the bathroom door for privacy sometimes-- our son will learn that bodies are good and beautiful things. I echo Ken and Paul that attitude is key.
dr says
i think most pediatricians recommend that children should not see their opposite sex parent naked after about age 3. ask you pediatrician to verify this is correct. same sex - not sure if there is a specific age.
good point about the nakedness thing
I've been amazed at how much he picks up. at 22 months, he already reads me like a book...
Hmmm, my little girl is
Hmmm, my little girl is three and her seeing me naked isn't an issue; I try to keep it to a low roar, but if she wanders into the room while I'm drying off or something I don't shoo her away. I think the big thing is your attitude towards the situation, if you freak out and start acting weird the kid will pick up on it and do the same.
Nakedness
My wife and I have been very open about the issue from the start. (maybe too open) Our girls 4 & 6, love being naked. They are obsessed with both of our anatomies. We're in the process now of setting boundaries and stressing appropriateness. We want them to understand that they should not ever be ashamed of their bodies, but at the same time be respectful of other people's privacy. It's a tricky situation, but I tend to agree with Ken. If WE make a big deal about it, then the kids will.
-pc jr
Nakedness
I just wanted to add that at this point my wife and I DO kick them out of the bathroom, but we explain that we need our privacy. At the same time, if they wander in while we are dressing, we don't make a big deal about it.
-pc jr
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