daddyscott, i feel for you. I ALMOST went through a divorce that got very very ugly. Loved my wife and kids, didn't want her to leave, and did nothing to provoke it. Long story short, my wife came back - so I have a lot of insight (now) into her thinking, why things happened the way they did, and how the process sort of works. Would be more than glad to chat. Ping and I can give you a call.