I went to my 10yr high school class reunion last fall and was simply dumbfounded by what I saw. My wife was thoroughly pregnant with our third and I drink about once a year. Here we are stone sober and we are surrounded by slobbering drunks. I know that they just were having what they thought of as a good time, but my thoughts were continuously with my son and daughter, and unborn son. It's almost as if the energy of my family becomes the voice of consciousness.
As harsh as it sounds, I truly feel that people without kids are missing out on a wealth of personal growth. Many of our friends are either still single, or have not yet bared children in their respective marriages. Some of them hold my wife and I on a pedestal with a sense of awe that we have successfully reproduced. I can hear it in their voices when we talk; there's just a longing jealousy that have. I can only think that they really need to enjoy the time without kids, because it will never be the same until that last one leaves for college.
I think the most amazing changes that happened to my wife and I are the physiological changes. It was most evident the birth of my first son. He could make the tiniest little peep and we should be awake in a heartbeat. Me, I was oblivious to how many times she would wake to nurse, readjust, or snuggle closer to our son. However, my subconscious apparently never sleeps. I could hear a pin drop on the other side of our house. There was one time, when our five month old puppy was harassing one of our cats. I was up yelling and running to the living room before I was even awake. I got out there to find the cat in the dogs mouth and both of them making noises I didn't think could come from such animals. I got back to bed and my wife only heard me yelling.....weird stuff.
Leaving the childless in the dust
I went to my 10yr high school class reunion last fall and was simply dumbfounded by what I saw. My wife was thoroughly pregnant with our third and I drink about once a year. Here we are stone sober and we are surrounded by slobbering drunks. I know that they just were having what they thought of as a good time, but my thoughts were continuously with my son and daughter, and unborn son. It's almost as if the energy of my family becomes the voice of consciousness.
As harsh as it sounds, I truly feel that people without kids are missing out on a wealth of personal growth. Many of our friends are either still single, or have not yet bared children in their respective marriages. Some of them hold my wife and I on a pedestal with a sense of awe that we have successfully reproduced. I can hear it in their voices when we talk; there's just a longing jealousy that have. I can only think that they really need to enjoy the time without kids, because it will never be the same until that last one leaves for college.
I think the most amazing changes that happened to my wife and I are the physiological changes. It was most evident the birth of my first son. He could make the tiniest little peep and we should be awake in a heartbeat. Me, I was oblivious to how many times she would wake to nurse, readjust, or snuggle closer to our son. However, my subconscious apparently never sleeps. I could hear a pin drop on the other side of our house. There was one time, when our five month old puppy was harassing one of our cats. I was up yelling and running to the living room before I was even awake. I got out there to find the cat in the dogs mouth and both of them making noises I didn't think could come from such animals. I got back to bed and my wife only heard me yelling.....weird stuff.